A teacher asked her class, “Write down what you want to be when you grow up.”
“I want to be a fireman.”
“I want to be a doctor.”
“I want to be a teacher.,

“I want to be happy.”
Upon reading that, the teacher looked up and said, “I think you misunderstood what my question was…”
“No,” said the child, “if I can’t be happy, I won’t be successful.”

Last night, my mum’s friend came over. She was asking about my job and what the company I work in does. As I explained to her and told her the different roles I’ve done, she looked to my mum and said, “your daughter is so successful. Why worry?”

Now, that made me leap as the first thought that came to my mind was, “am I being judged by my position in terms of whether I am successful or not?” Truth is, if you’ve understood the moral of the above story, success derives from being happy. The sad truth is that people fail to remember that.

We race, or sprint towards the next IT thing. Always wanting to top someone else or feeling judged by others if you so much as, God forbid, not get that latest gadget/car/bag/phone/shoes/invisible clothes/real clothes, etc. Do they bring you true happiness or just a false impression of it?

We are so busy running after a fantasy of life when really, all you have to do to live is to relax and enjoy the little things. So, the next time you see a family being busy with their phones and iPads, please do smack them…well, not literally, wouldn’t want you getting sued cos of me. You get my point, I hope.

Live. Laugh. Love.


The reason I love him.

“When he said to let someone in my heart again,
I started liking him.
When he listened and entertained my doubts,
I started falling for him.
When he took time to address my fears,
I started falling hard for him.
When he spoke about his fears,
I grew to love him.
When he helped me to be comfortable in my own skin,
I was mad in love with him.”

Thank you for being the man that allows me to grow as a woman, a confident woman, without compromises. I have learnt to love again and it’s all because of you. You’re my inspiration, strength and crazy happy pill.

I’ve got a good feeling about this.

Be Love.


Hip Hip Hooray! A nomination!


Hey all! Hope your weekend is going smoothly so far! It has been so hectic so this post is rather belated, but nonetheless still valid. I am so glad to announce that I have been nominated for this amazing award of One Lovely Blog Award by StephJ. It’s truly an honour and to know that all the heartfelt posts I’ve been carving out has lead to this nomination *wipes tears of joy away from my face*. Once again, thank you so much for nominating me for this award. I look forward to the next chapter of our adventure!

The rules are simple as A,B,C…

  • Thank the nominator and link them.
  • List the rules and display the award.
  • Add 7 facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 7 other bloggers and let them know via a comment.

7 fact about myself:

  1. I am still a Disney lover. Well, do we ever grow out of it? Despite how life can seem to mess up the little joys in our childhood, I’d like to stop over-thinking every situation and just enjoy them for what they are.
  2. I’m terribly scared of animals. Yup, cats and dogs and the rest of them. I would love to get over my fear of dogs one day though.
  3. I find myself rather confusing and indecisive most times. That…maybe I should not put this as one of my 7 facts…but it won’t kill me, right? We all have felt this before…have you?
  4. One of my bucket list items is to break out into a perfect dance number on the dance floor with tons of back up dancers – the kind you see on movies. How does one choreograph a club full of people???
  5. I love cloud gazing. Sure, it’s not as magical as star gazing but it makes me incredibly happy and calm, and fill me up with inspiration and positivity.
  6. My dream is to be a professional singer/ songwriter performing internationally, and helping to eradicate human trafficking. Now, I just need to work on my patience to learn an instrument.
  7. Last but not least, to insert some wackiness into this list, I am a totally crazed Minion fan! So much so that my boss got me stickers with minions and my name on it. I have the umbrella, most of the collection from the McDonald’s Happy Meals, flip flops too! 🙂 Let your inner kid shine, most times.

And my nominations goes to…

Wow! That wasn’t easy!
And I just had the biggest shock of my life by pressing the “back” button without having saved this as a draft! Thank you, auto save! P/s: ALWAYS save your work!

Go forth and be awesome, my dear ones.

Love & Peace.


Technology vs Life

It’s not my first time talking about this, but I still can’t get over the fact it’s getting worse. We are so glued to our phones, tablets, and whatever other mobile device there is out there.

Even at the dining table with or without company, we have to somehow have our devices with us (truth: I am writing this post while having breakfast alone). I also have a hard time to just leave my phone in my bag while meeting friends for dinner. Sure, if the topic gets dry and boring, that’s sort of acceptable…or is it? Do we possess the inability to be bored these days? What we call “keeping in contact” has actually shut us off from the world.

I’ve seen this many, many times: persons plugged in to their devices, engrossed in their shows while walking in a crowded area during peak periods. I mean, really? C’mon. And don’t even get me started on those that play videos and music out loud on a bus. If you think you’re doing some form of community service, you’re not.

Hah, I feel like a naggy old woman now.

Getting back to the topic…what was it? Oh yes.

There are always pros and cons to almost everything. Fact is that mobile devices have made our lives easier (imagine being stuck in the middle of nowhere with no directions and only a charged phone with connection, or that would be totally redundant too) but it has also been a nuisance (ridding us from the simpler pleasures of life). Remember those times when you were able to just sit in a cafe, enjoy a cuppa coffee and a lovely piece of cake? That first time your tastebuds and fears melted as the flavours filled your mouth, like a firecracker? Or that time when you had a great time with your best bud and didn’t realize you had spent the entire day not looking at your phone? How about a romantic evening that didn’t involve both of you playing on your phones, just basking in love?

If you have had any such experiences recently, great job!
For those that haven’t, go figure.
Don’t let technology wire you up till you’re an emotionless being.

Love & Peace.


The Hardest Thing.

Looking back at my testimonials from previous teachers, I had this sudden drop in my heart. The kind of feeling that one has when you’ve been hit with the realization that you could do much more, but have been doing nothing except procrastinating. A giant kick in the butt, I would say.

But when I woke up this morning, the words of Baz Luhrmann resounded in my head, “Don’t regret if you do not know what you want to do in your life…Some of the most interesting 40 year olds still don’t.”

Life is a roller coaster. We don’t need to stress out every aspect of it, like it’s the end of the world. Our dreams tend to get dissolved as soon as we reach adulthood, with the bills and bank loans pilling up. Despite all of this, never, ever lose yourself. Take time to make time for yourself. Do the things you love. Keep dreaming and working on it. Visit toy stores and become a kid again. Don’t forget to stop living.

Love & Peace.


Christmas Edition: To Be Thankful For

Counting down to Christmas, there is nothing more exciting than that for me. It’s the biggest celebration my family and I celebrate for the year. Close friends and family come over for a meal, exchange of gifts and endless laughter surrounds the house. Bygones be bygones, letting nothing but happiness set in.

The smell of mum’s famous dishes is the welcoming smell as people slowly flood in, making mouths water with hunger. Christmas carols playing in the background, the clinking of wine glasses as we make cheer. Ahh…Christmas is definitely the most wonderful time of the year.

So, with that said, let’s take some time to be thankful, once again. Not to mention, to also remember those lost in the tragedies that happened over the year, and their families.

It only takes one smile to make a difference, a change of heart, someone to feel visible.

This Christmas, I wish everyone a peaceful mind and heart. Let us spread the cheer and happiness beyond our social network, to the strangers on the streets. Be thankful for what you have been blessed with. You are blessed.

Love & Peace.


Stretched Out Thin.

It’s always easy to get so wrapped up in our own problems and worries, and it’s never easy when the ones that matters put more strain on you. Life is such, ain’t it? We have more bumps in the road than a gun has its rounds. Work, love, family, finances – if you really look at it, none of us are really 100% happy. The more we chase for what we think is happiness, the more stressed we get. Cos really, what is happiness?

Last Saturday, after a month plus of being super stretched out, I broke down at work. I began swearing and had to fight tears which were ever ready to stream down like the Niagra Falls. That’s when I knew I needed my alone time, to relish myself. I found bliss in switching off my phone for the entire day, went to one of my favorite restaurants and ordered Eggs Benedict with a nice pot of tea. Got to read my book while waiting, which was such a wonderful experience. Despite being slightly full, I treated myself to a scoop of Belgium chocolate ice cream after (nothing brightens up your mood like ice cream).

Next on my agenda was to get an album from the music store, but really – how can I just get one?! It was such a difficult decision that I decided not to make it for now and left to find a cinema. Now, that was a rather turned off moment of the day. With all the renovations in the malls being done, I had circled a part of the mall so many times that even a hyper kid would get dizzy. With directions given, I walked the distance of what felt like a mini marathon and FINALLY, got to the cinema, made it to a good movie and got my laughs on.

So what is happiness? If you ask me, it’s about being able to be totally independent and confident with yourself. And eating ice cream.
Don’t let your demons (or angels) get the best of you.

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Love & Peace.