When purpose is defeated.

I’m no stranger to online dating apps. But what happens when you’re sold into a web of lies and hurt?
This is my recent experience, and like many people, I never thought it’d happen to me.

I have always tried to see the best in people, which have made me somewhat gullible at times. My recent encounter with someone I met on a dating site has never been so disgusting and hurtful. On the other hand, I’m glad I found out the truth before things went too far.

He was charming, down-to-earth, hilarious, witty, kind and pretty generous. Though looks weren’t all there, he still seemed to be quite the perfect package. And ‘sides, looks fade but humour doesn’t.

We had contacted a year before, but somehow stopped after a while till I went back on the app. So, after a week or 2, we met for dinner. And a week after, for a movie and ice cream. Nothing fancy, agreed on keeping things simple and see where it leads. Now, we texted everyday and he acted so well like a single adult man. Naturally, I would try to google/ search Facebook for the person I’m
dating after the second or third date. So, to my horror, he turned out to be married and has a baby!

It’s only been a few days since I found out so I’m in the midst of feeling angsty, wanting to punch someone or scream vulgarities or downing a bottle of vodka. I’ll emphasize that not many are as lucky as I am, to have found out this early. But it’s just disgusting that when he was confronted, he had tons of silly excuses. Not to mention, putting himself as single on a dating app, and all that flirting. I can only pray that he has learnt his mistake or his wife finds out soon.

It may not seem like much, since we didn’t do anything except 2 harmless dates. But can you really put a label on the lies that have caused hurt and disgust?

Dating apps are good to find new friends and meet different people from all walks of life, but sadly, it’s also a way for people to cheat on their partners. So, please, I urge all my readers – use it with caution. The world is becoming less honest as we know it, but we still need to keep our spirits high.

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