With all the talk of marriage and commitment I’ve been hearing from friends who are in relationships, getting married, already married, I’ve decided to put my two cents worth on this topic with this post.
I’m not married nor am I in a relationship (self-declared happy single), but I’ve had enough relationship woes to impart some light on this tough, and sometimes, sticky but nonetheless lovely topic…or so, I hope.
Well, here’s the breakdown:
Once the icing of every relationship has been licked off, we start knowing our partner more – to see and experience things that are part of their true self, their ups and downs. For many, this becomes somewhat of a glass shattering into pieces – that fairytale life you had of a happily ever after? That once romanticized idea of a “perfect” partner? It’s all gone. All gone. And now, you’re wandering if you even love this “completely different person.”
This then, leads to a break up cos “it’s just not working out” or “we’re too different for each other” or the classic “it’s not you, it’s me.” You’d think we’d get better break up lines in this generation. Hah!
Or, if the both of you are interested in each other, through the good and the bad, you’d both learn to make it work. After all, who wants a Stepford partner? It’s the differences that spice up any relationship. But most important, an open mind and loads of patience to each other. Quoting Ellie from The Awkward Moment, “Being there for someone when they really need you is all any relationship is.”
Now, Marriage. The huge M word that sends some running to the nearest exit or jumping up to the skies with glee. If you can’t even handle a proper relationship, what makes you think you can handle a marriage? Forget about having a grand wedding, spending millions on one day only to pay back with interest for years to come. Instead, invest more on a better future with your partner. A wedding lasts a day, but marriage lasts a lifetime. Don’t throw a Kim K stunt and make a mockery of it. Marriage is sacred. It shouldn’t be used just so you can buy a flat and finally get out of your parents’ home. Marriage is sacred. Don’t make it something out of convenience.
That’s my two cents worth 🙂
Be kind to one another 🙂 x